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http://eastender.blog.co.uk/http://eastender.blog.co.uk/en-UKhourly82000-01-01T12:00+00:00http://eastender.blog.co.uk/http://eastender.blog.co.uk/http://data5.blog.de/design/preview/63/d07ccaeb6f7e949ae66ff8114594ba_160x200.jpgLooking back at my life........http://eastender.blog.co.uk/2006/08/20/looking_back_at_my_life~1055297/2006-08-20T21:34:22+02:00 Well today, I have spent at least 6 hours looking back at my life of 32 years - reflecting on what if's, if only's, I wish, etc. I know 6 hours is probably not enough time but I can sum it up - a sad, lonely, bitter, confused life. Don't get me wrong - I know all of these words are negative - but I do have some really great members of my family who look out for me and I look out for them. But - when I look back at my life - these are my highlights: * Earliest memory - watching my dad beat my mum. I was only 8 but I remember that day as if it was yesterday. * Being verbally abused by my dad on every occasion. * Me being responsible for the eventual break up and divorce of my mum and dad - I intervened and called the police who arrested my dad on at least three occasions. * I left sixth form colege at 18 as that was about the time my dad left for good and as eldest child of three, I went out to work purely to help my mum with paying bills etc. I finally decided to go to uni after a year after lots of persuasion from my mum, but decided I would only go to a local uni so that I could live at home and work. Whilst doing my full-time degree course, I continued to work 35 hours during evenings and every weekend. I was shattered but managed to get a good degree (2:1) * After uni, I continued to work where I was working whilst I was at uni. It was only 2 years ago I took courage (as I turned 30) to decide to leave and do a postgraduate course - this led to another career. * Relationship wise - all my relationships have been doomed. Following the break up of my parents, I have never trusted anyone to get close to anyone. I even convinced myself at one stage that I was ready for marriage and stupidly got married but this lasted less than a year. I even convinced myself as being gay, but then I change my mind and fancy women. I go through these phases of confusion regularly. Health wise - I have been conscious of my weight and appearance since I can remember - I am approximately 12 and a half stone but I feel overweight. In the past I have starved myself, made myself sick after eating and also taken slimming pills which have been banned in the UK (obtained through the internet). Coming from an asian-indian background, I am also fairly hairy and have also resorted to shaving my chast and back regularly. I paid over £1000 once for electrolysis in London - it hurt like hell and I wouldn't wish this pain on my worst enemy. A couple of years ago, I was also off work for approximately 4 months with stress and had lost over 3 stones in that time. When I eventually returned to work, I was monitored every lunchtime to see if I had eaten anything. Although I would in front of them, I would then go to toilet and bring it all up. I still take the slimming pills - I know they are banned but they seem to work and I dont feel hungry with them. * I wish I had regular / decent friends - not just fellow work colleagues or fellow students - who I seem to lose touch with very quickly. * Up to now, I am still in this career (which took off 2 years ago after my postgraduate course), but my heart is now set on pursuing what my first degree was in about 10 years ago. I am scared as at age of 32, am I sacrificing a regular income for another 2 years of expensive studying? * I keep on telling myself life is short and I should never look back - but am I right? Is it just me or is life this bad all the time? <a href="http://eastender.blog.co.uk/2006/08/20/looking_back_at_my_life~1055297/#comments">Comments</a> Well today, I have spent at least 6 hours looking back at my life of 32 years - reflecting on what if's, if only's, I wish, etc. I know 6 hours is probably not enough time but I can sum it up - a sad, lonely, bitter, confused life. Don't get me wrong - I know all of these words are negative - but I do have some really great members of my family who look out for me and I look out for them. But - when I look back at my life - these are my highlights:

* Earliest memory - watching my dad beat my mum. I was only 8 but I remember that day as if it was yesterday.

* Being verbally abused by my dad on every occasion.

* Me being responsible for the eventual break up and divorce of my mum and dad - I intervened and called the police who arrested my dad on at least three occasions.

* I left sixth form colege at 18 as that was about the time my dad left for good and as eldest child of three, I went out to work purely to help my mum with paying bills etc. I finally decided to go to uni after a year after lots of persuasion from my mum, but decided I would only go to a local uni so that I could live at home and work. Whilst doing my full-time degree course, I continued to work 35 hours during evenings and every weekend. I was shattered but managed to get a good degree (2:1)

* After uni, I continued to work where I was working whilst I was at uni. It was only 2 years ago I took courage (as I turned 30) to decide to leave and do a postgraduate course - this led to another career.

* Relationship wise - all my relationships have been doomed. Following the break up of my parents, I have never trusted anyone to get close to anyone. I even convinced myself at one stage that I was ready for marriage and stupidly got married but this lasted less than a year. I even convinced myself as being gay, but then I change my mind and fancy women. I go through these phases of confusion regularly.

Health wise - I have been conscious of my weight and appearance since I can remember - I am approximately 12 and a half stone but I feel overweight. In the past I have starved myself, made myself sick after eating and also taken slimming pills which have been banned in the UK (obtained through the internet). Coming from an asian-indian background, I am also fairly hairy and have also resorted to shaving my chast and back regularly. I paid over £1000 once for electrolysis in London - it hurt like hell and I wouldn't wish this pain on my worst enemy. A couple of years ago, I was also off work for approximately 4 months with stress and had lost over 3 stones in that time. When I eventually returned to work, I was monitored every lunchtime to see if I had eaten anything. Although I would in front of them, I would then go to toilet and bring it all up. I still take the slimming pills - I know they are banned but they seem to work and I dont feel hungry with them.
* I wish I had regular / decent friends - not just fellow work colleagues or fellow students - who I seem to lose touch with very quickly.

* Up to now, I am still in this career (which took off 2 years ago after my postgraduate course), but my heart is now set on pursuing what my first degree was in about 10 years ago. I am scared as at age of 32, am I sacrificing a regular income for another 2 years of expensive studying?

* I keep on telling myself life is short and I should never look back - but am I right? Is it just me or is life this bad all the time?

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]]>My first ever bloghttp://eastender.blog.co.uk/2006/08/19/my_first_ever_blog~1053019/2006-08-19T22:17:03+02:00 Hello to everyone - this is my first every blog. I hope I have set this up properly. <a href="http://eastender.blog.co.uk/2006/08/19/my_first_ever_blog~1053019/#comments">Comments</a> Hello to everyone - this is my first every blog. I hope I have set this up properly.

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